Transcript for "Nurturing girls"

Esese mumasina bandanga bali Celestine Natenge Muhuyi.

My name is Celestine Natenge Muhuyi.

Omukhana omusonge omumwalie.

From the clan of Basonge Bamwalie.

Ese nenyile ndomekho nga yaba khale bandu besikhana nga benyikhana bamenye namwe bamayi ba khale nga kenyikhana balele bakhana, bana besikhana.

I wanted to say how ladies were supposed to live those days or how the then mothers were supposed to bring up girls.

Ne yaba khale abele mayi nalela omwana wa sikhana amwanja nali omutiti nasiika tete.

Those days mothers were supposed to take an early charge to bring up girls when they start to learn how to walk.

Abele salinda nga mmiaka kia sai nikio khakhuchamo kino bali omwana akhule ache esisomelo atasekho kamasomo kangaki nio bali kanje khumukhebusia ali nokhola ori nokhola ori aba khokhola bubi ta.

She was not supposed to wait until they are grown, they are taken to school to advance in academics/high education level so that she starts to correct her when she goes wrong.

Ese mububwimbi ndalomanga kenyekhana omwana nakama omutiti wasikhana abele kanja bamukhusia bariena.

In short, I am talking about how a girl child is supposed to be brought up from an early age.

Omwana yuno sindu sia kwanza mayi anyoa kamuokesia ali buli wakati newinyukha asubuhi mabwibwi wisaba mumoni weyao neli muchikoni nio watekha echai.

The first thing, the mother must teach her is that every morning when you wake up in the morning you must wash your face and sweep the kitchen or the house, before preparing tea.

Sawinyokha busa nocha muchikoni notekha echai ta.

You can not just wake up, go to the kitchen and start preparing tea.

Kenako kali khutibia bana basikhana.

That way is misleading the girl child.

Omwana nakakhamala khutekha echai eyo ara khumesa kapangila bandu bikombe mala sekenyekhana nekakhamala echai arukire khubindu ta.

This child, after she has finished preparing tea, she serves people at the table, and she is not supposed to jump over utensils after taking tea.

Omwana yuno bamubolela nowakhamala echai panga bindu bino bulayi waila mulusiro wasinga weya amukhe niye mwakhalila wapangusia nowesenda warura enje.

You tell this child that after taking tea you must arrange utensils, well take them to the bedroom, you wash, sweep the dining room, mop before you move out.

Elubeka webana ba sisolele aba nekesendilekho mumiaka bamubolela khumukumilisia mbo sakenyekhana mubise biosi biosi onyolekhana ne omwana wesisoleli yakhaba nali wandayo munda rurendre bora kimiaka kiaba ne kisendilekho sekenyikhana ta.

In regards to a boy child, when they are grown she is encouranged that she is not supposed to at any time be found with a boy even if he is your biological brother as long as he is grown enough, you are not allowed.

Mukhola muri sikila kamafuki sokafukila ta mwakosa.

Because you cannot control your feelings, you end up messing.

Lie khabili, bamubolela bali saa yote nemuli ne papa woo aba omwenoyu okhusala namwe okhuibula sakenyekhana noba simbi nomusingila chilong'i chewe namwe kamasati ta.

Secondly, she is told, anytime she is with her father that is someone who sired you, you are not supposed to be so close to an extent of washing his clothes (trousers or shirts).

Oba omwana omurekerefu wisenda esinao na niba mbo mayi sanyala kaba ne limanya liekhuloma ali sasingila papa chingubo ta ewewe sakenyekhana wasinga ta, sibukusu aba lulwenolu luswa.

You must be a listening child, move a little bit far and if the mother is not aware that she is supposed to wash the clothes of her children's father you are not supposed to wash them, in Bukusu that is a taboo.

Omwana wa sikhana aba oli akhula obona oli akhaka khucha enju naba simurerera eshida.

A female child may encounter challenges to get married when she grows up.

Obona kanja ata sanyola bana ta ne liba bali liembaki sekaulila liebakhale ta.

Sometimes she does not get children, and it is then concluded that she did not adhere to what elders said.

Namba mbili, bamuikia khumenya limenya liosi.

Secondly, she is taught to live all types of life.

Omwana akhoya amenye limenya nilio anyala kamanya ali mungila ekindi busia buri enje sekamanyikhana ka wele ta senyala nacha enju mubandu bali ne kimiandu ta.

A child should live a life that she realizes that, maybe tomorrow you cannot know God's plans, I might not get married to wealthy people

Omwana akhoya kaba nende liba nilio kekhala namanya ali ese nenja namwe nabela nga wa Sudi, yaba khale kulanga ebungoma bali wa sudi, ne abele ewenei akhoya kamanya embako.

A child must be reasonable, in that she sits knowing, when I get married to those sides of Sudis (those days we used to call Bungoma as "Wa sudi") there, she must be someone who knows how to farm.

Alima, asisimula bulime, nabialakho kamapwoni. Yaba khale bakukhu befwe bali namakikano.

She digs, weeds, and plants sweet potatoes.

Amanyakho omwana abele khuloma khuli ata khwisinga.

A child was at least supposed to be someone who knows how to bathe.

Kamanyakho yesi khulolakho engubo endayi, kang’onakho emurwe nio kang’onakho wakala abele nga sibukusu kosiakho chikhafu nicho banyala barera, nechili chikhafu kamakhumi kabili aba kalondekhana nga liba liewe lienyukhe.

If she knows how to pick or select a good cloth makes her hair/head to be neat so that she becomes smart to a level of raising the dowry price like twelve cows depending on how she carries herself around.

Ndalosiakho nono khusisomelo nekesendilekho kachakho kamasomo kangaki.

I will now talk about school, when she has gone to an advanced academic level.

Omwana wa sikhana alamala karura mumakhono kaasi namwe bulesi bwa asi kesendakho khulondekhana nende nga chikaratasi cha lelo sindu sia kwanza mayi akhoya amubolele sana amanye ali khocha buruki bulikho ebangeli elikho.

When a female child grows up and gets academic certificates, the first thing the mother must tell her is about leadership and education.

Omwana yuno akhoya akhule namanya ali ebangeli mayi nali alei papa nali alei, ebangeli niyo enyala yanjeta namwe enyala yakila nalonda muelekeo kumulayi.

This child must grow knowing that when the mother and father are far, it's the Bible that can help me or it can make me into a good example or follow the right direction.

Number mbili akhoya karia baruki balikho, akhoya karia bakhulu bewe.

Secondly, she must respect those in leadership, respect her elders.

Yaba khale abele omundu waloma bali nokharia baruki balikho ta aba ewe wolile eng’ani, soli omulai onyalikhana ta namwe baloma bali kumukhono kulikho kwe baruki kumuleyi kukhilakho abele nikuo bakhulelelengemo.

Those days, it was believed that if you cannot respect the days' leaders you would have approached your grave, you are not good, or they say the hand of the leaders or leadership is by far better and stricter than that which brought you up.

Nono omwana alatila ebangeli kekhala nasomakho obona emuyeta bindu bikali sanyolekhanamo ta.

So when a child embraces the bible, she reads it often, it helps her to a level of not being caught in many things.

Ndalosiakho ukhusiano ya omwana wasikhana nende babasie besikhana babandi.

I will also talk about the relationship between a girl and her other (girls).

Nokhusia omwana wasikhana sokhoya wamuokesia oli wikhala sa munju notekha lunch olia sa weng’ene ta, namwe nobona basie nga balinabyo batamba kimiandu obaguwamo ta. Osomia omwana woo oli nyinga buri ese nendambao ewe onyala walela bafubi.

When you bring up a girl you are not supposed to teach her to just sit in the house, cook lunch and eat alone or when you see your friends who are poor or those have wealth you become selective someday, if I am not around you can take care of the orphans.

Sikila omwana yuno busia buri ata nacha enju yewe akana acha na omusecha niye achilekho wakala omukhasi wewe kafwa wa kwanza mala kamulekhela bafubi.

Because maybe tomorrow, when she gets married, and maybe a man she is married to, his first wife died and left him with orphans.

Okhoya wokesia omwana yuno khuyetana.

You should teach this child to be helpful.

Oli noli nende sititi olia nowasie.

The small, you have to eat with others.

Siakila abele Wasike wa Musungu kaloma ali “nolia nowasie nyinga olifwa bakhuona chisi namwe bandu bechula amuliango.

The reason why Wasike the son of Musungu said "when you eat with others, one day you will die, you will have people to take care of your body or others come in large numbers to your funeral.

Lakini nolia weng’ene busia buri oli ofua ounyila munju jirani samanya ta.”

But when you eat alone, maybe tomorrow you die, you may start stinking in your house without a neighbor knowing."

Nono likila ndoma ndi abanga bali linyalikhana khulela bakhana khwa khale khukhoya khuendelee ata bana basikhana ba chisiku cha sai bosi banyolekho kamasome kano mala kabayete, asante.

That makes me say, if it was possible to take care of girls like in the old days, we are supposed to continue even with the current generation's girls so that they get these teachings, so it helps them, thank you.