Transcript for "Bukusu funerals"

Eeh bana befwe muriena?

How are you, my people?

Lisina liange bananga bali George wa Wasike.

My name is George, Wasike's child.

Samwene omuchemwile ngamwa ebumeme, maayi wasala omumeme.

I am from the Bachemwile clan, my mother is from the Bameme clan.

Bona mwambunile ano khunyanga yino mwenya mwekesiekho lilala namwe kabili.

You have come to my place this early morning for me to tell you one or two things.

Ese omusawa orao, niye ndi ano sesi nako - nanjile ngofula mbona ndi nako - khengofula sendoma ndi mulekhe enyuma ta mwekesiakho lilala namwe kabili nemwenya murekeresie namwe mulekhe.

I am from the first Sawa circumcision age set, I have noticed I am getting old, I don't want to leave you behind, I want to say a few things which you can decide to listen to or not.

Eeeh ese nenya khubolakho likhuwa lia kwanza lili busa lilala nilio nimilakho sendi nende kabili ta khwakororwe khulila khutubana khulila khutubana.

I have one important word, we have lost our morals on mourning.

Bana befwe ese ndi ne omwichukhulu, sahi natilile omwichukhulu.

My people, I have a grandchild now.

Nabone mukhomwana wase esuku eyo kecha kema anje kafufwisisie rarawe masalaawe wandayase, ali papa, nama khucha nabona papa kafwile!

I saw my daughter in-law the other day standing outside after she had lost her father in-law, my brother. "Father, I went and saw the my dead father in-law."

Nandi e maayi wibilile!

I said, "my daughter in-law, did you forget"

Andi sorebile ata maayi woo kakhubolelakho lilala namwe kabili ochile wamubona nakonile asi?

You would have asked your mother to tell you one or two words, did you find him sleeping on the floor?

Ali ye papa nandi tawe okosile andi orebire wibilile andi orebire.

She said yes, I told her she was wrong, she would have asked or maybe she forgot.

Ewe niooli wosiwosi nio oli aao kabali wabeela/watekha mungo mwabene likhuwa nga lie kamasika nali kwile namwe omundu nafwile mukholo mwenywe orebanga bakhulu bakhu bakhwokesiakho.

If anyone is also married, when you are in another family you should be asking for advice from the elders when someone dies.

Ewe sayi chino wacha wabona masalao khumulambo nakonile barakhurakho bali aba wakosile, mala bung’ali aba wakosile, aba wakosile kabisa aba wakosile lukali sana.

If you now go and view your dead father in-law, it will be seen as a wrong thing, it is true you will be wrong, it will be a very wrong thing.

Ewe masalao nafwile omundu akhakhubea ali, luno esuku yekhurusia kumulambo nabacha khusikha oche okukulile munju mwewe niye afwilile aao ta, olinga obone sichula siewe wabone.

When your in-law is dead, let no one lie to you that the day the body is taken from the morgue for you to go and scream from his house, it is the same thing as seeing him naked.

Nono kaba masalao kafwile ewewe ba busa ewo, chishuku-bindu bioo bioosi, noli nende bandu bakhukendelele bechile khukhubolelakho bali kalaa oba busa ewoo weneyo okhacha niyo kumulambo kuli wareba sindu buli si-siosi siosi ta.

If your father in-law is dead, just stay at your place, do your own things and receive people who come to console you at your place, do not go near the body to inquire about anything.

Nabone esuku eyo omwana kecha mwekesiakho tu sekali bali nabone bubi ta, lakini wakhola mukhukorwa khwekesiakho busa.

I saw the other day a child came, I am just telling you, I am not saying it bad faith, I know it was done unknowingly.

Ewe kabali masalao kafwile we sisecha ata yakhaba we sikhasi.

If your mother or father in-law dies.

Oba busa ewoo weneyo nolilila ewo weneyo kalaa kalaa, likhuwa neliliyo murebana kalaa nolanda khundulo norebakho olikhoo omukhulu yesiyesi oli khukhole khurie?

You stay and mourn from your place, if there is something you want to know, you ask respectfully from any elder around for advice.

Nono nyange esio bona mukhomwana wase acha munju ya wandayase kafwile, wandayase aba sali yesi masalawe wakana.

So the other day my daughter in-law went to my dead brother's house yet he is also her father in-law.

Lelo mwarereo muli khane muli mwachile mukanisa namwe khane muli waena, ndiyo khubukana khubukana lakini akhaba mwibukana omwo bakhekesiangakho kamakhuwa kabili kataru.

Nowadays you claim to follow religion, we also go to church and they teach two or three things.

Oyoyo ali masalawe omwene elala,elala kabisa elala elala.

He is like your own father in-law.

Nali nakonile arariaro oreba omusakhulu woo munju namwe niye wasimanakho naye mukholo omwomwo ocha wamureba oli bona oyu owefwe kakonile owefwe khukhole khurie?

While he is dead you are supposed to ask your husband or you ask for advice from someone you like in that clan.

Sochunukha busa wacha wepa munju babandu besisimula, masalao wakana mundu mulala wakana alila sifwabakani wakana akwa asi asisimula chingubo kenya kokesie sichula wesi olimo walolele oyo kakonile aoo,wesi olilia aoo, masalao yesi alilila aoo, sebubechanga bulayi nibwo ta.

You do not just show up in the house, you might find some people mourning anyhow some may be removing their clothes and you will be watching that with the dead father in-law lying there.

Ewewe notekhile noli munju mwabene aba warura ewenywe yaani waloma oli khenje nakanane nabano khukholele alala okhakholanga weng’ene ta.

If you are married somewhere, since you left your home you should be making plans together with your husband's family and not just you alone.

Sikila waloma oli oche weng’ene, nyanga wakana ocha mukholo ekindi bakhwikicha bali eeeh oyuno kakosile khukhole khurie?

If you do things on your own, you might get married to a family which will not be understanding.

Kakholile likhuwa likhali liang’ali ta khukhole khurie?

"She has done something wrong, what should we do?"

Bakhurakho kumusango, bakhurakho kumusango elala kabisa-nobona biola abundu bikhukhaya.

They will ask you to pay dearly until it reaches a point it becomes a serious issue.

Nono nenya khukhwokesia nandi omundu nakonile nga masalao, ndi busa khulubeka lwa masalao ndi busa elala khumasalao sendikho khumundu yesiyesi tawe nono manyila khwako khwama khwise luno sesi nakhulile nga nembolile matayi nandi nise omusawa orao.

Now I want to tell you that when your father in-law is dead, that is what I am insisting on, I am not talking about something else, I am mature enough as I said earlier I am from the Basawa circumcision age set.

Nono senakhulile bona, mwekesiakho busa lilala lilio.

I am mature, I want to tell you what I know.

Kabali masalao kafwile namwe kakonile aoo ariario wesi somanya oli wesi aba watibisie?

If your father in-law is dead, it means you have also lost.

Watibisie nono orebakho oli simbi nawe omukhulukho okhukhulilakho kidogo oli, yaya namwe papa namwe wandayase khukhole khurie namwe khukhole khurie?

You ask an elder who is around you, "Brother or father/uncle, how is it done?"

Alakhwekesiakho nomusakhulu yesi nali, ndiyo lelo murerana nemusili batiti lakini nebusa lakini leo murerana nemusili batiti nebusa orebakho omusakhulu woo akhaurana busa wakana ali nende chichi lelo mulanga muli chisenti, wakana ali ne chisenti kakhuubasia ta omureba nobona natondobana orebakho omukhulu olikhoo.

He/she will show you direction, you can also ask your husband for direction though nowadays you marry each other while still young, let him not confuse you because he has money, you ask him but if he does not understand, then ask someone else who is mature.

Okhebilila wepa munju mwa masalao nakonile wacha watubana nende bamasalao bano wanja khulila nabo ta.

Never make a mistake of mixing with your in-laws to mourn while your father in-law is dead.

Bakhurakho kumusango mala obona oli engo oreba engo niyo wama bali eeh andi sawareba?

They will blame you and people from your home will wonder why you did not inquire from them.

Nono ewe kali masalao kakonile, masalao okhusalila omusecha woo yakhaba nali wandaye wa masalao, masalao busa niye sikila wacha mukholo mwabene oria ekholo eyoyo sikila wachamo niyo ebolanga likhuwa wawulilamo.

If your father in-law whether he is just a brother to your father in-law is dead, provided you are married in that clan, you have to give respect.

Okharekeresianga omusakhulu woo munju yenge’ene ta, orekeresia ekholo.

Do not just listen to your husband, listen to the clan.

Masalao nakonile okhacha wesisimulilamo chingubo okhakhola orie tawe.

Do not behave shamelessly when your father in-law is lying dead.

Nono waria mala orio esuku ya khusikha mbonanga balala bepaka muchinju chabwe namwe cha masalawe namwe boosi nabatima chimbilo bacha paka esilindwa.

During the burial day I see some running to their father in-law's house or running to the grave.

Bakholanga bario wakana nebakhamanya ta, lakini ese nendola murekesi ese nareba omukhulu kambolela khane siebenyakhananga birio ta, okhacha munju mwa masalao yakhaba nebarurire bachile khusikha okhepa munju wasisimulilamo chingubo tawe.

They used to do that unknowingly, I asked an elder who told me that was wrong.

Sikila bandu aba basilimo, balala aba bakhulolele baandu sabaruranga munju boosi ta wakana mulala asikale ocha olililamo, ndio mwasimana ne masalao mbakhooo oyingane ta kali kakhururirekho cha busa sibukusu siene nga bindu bichichanga cha busa sibukusu siene nga bindu bichichanga.

Do not go to your father in-law's house and behave shamelessly because people will be watching, not all people get out of the house, some stay back, I am not arguing that you care about your father in-law but we have all lost, just do things the Bukusu way as it is done.

Ewe nocha engo khulanga oli papa kafwile masalawase ochichanga oriena?

When you go home to report that your father in-law is dead, how do you normally do it?

Khwekesiekho enyanga ya luno, nocha engo nobola ndiyo babolanga ata wakhacha nolila bubi mbao ta ocha walila wamala wikhala asi ne papa woo nee maayi woo kaba balio newatamba bandu sebafwichanga mukholo boosi bawamo ta bandu sebafwichanga mukholo boosi bawamo ta paka alikhomo umundu osikalangakhomo.

Let me show you today how to report when you go home, they say even if you go while crying, there is no problem, you can cry and calm down then sit down with your parents and if they are not available you will still find other people to talk to.

Bandu sebafwa busa ekholo yafwa yoosi ta.

Not all people die in a clan.

Nocha engo khulanga masalao kafwile wikhala asi nende babebusi boo baba nebalio batambao bawandayo sebatambao boosi ta namwe yakhaba wandayo woo wemwatayi, somanyile busa omundu satamba ta mukholo ta mwakachula muli nono ese nechile khulanga papa wase masalawase kafwile khukhola khurie?

When you go home to report at least you will find someone to talk to, you sit down with your parents if they are there, if they are not there you will find your relatives and report about the death, "My father in-law is dead, what should we do?"

Mukhanondekho namwe semukhanondekho ta.

Will you follow me or not?

Paka lilikhoo nilio mulakachula mwolane khumwisho, mwolane khumalila mbo yaani khwamalile.

There must be something you will discuss and reach an agreement.

Nono nocha engo khulanga wikhala nende oliyo umusawa kabakhoo omurebakho, khwama khumusawa khwilakho enyuma khubachuma obarebakho oli, kabala aliyo omurebakho katambayo orebakho omukhulukho okhacha enyuma eneno wela khubakolongolo sana tawe benabo basilikho nga bana bakhamanya bulayi ta.

When you go home to report, you sit down with someone from the Basawa or Bachuma circumcision's age set to guide you through, if there is one you should consult a mature person, do not ask the young age set like Bakolongolo, those are still young they don't know much.

Wanjila khumusawa nga omukhukho oyu wacha abweni warebakho omuchuma wacha oriorio warebakho omumaina.

You begin by asking Omusawa then Omuchuma and finally the Omumaina age set.

Basi oli khukhole khurie kabala babebusi boo batamba.

You ask them what is supposed to be done if your parents are not there.

Babebusi boo babao okachula nabo.

You will have to talk to your parents if they will be around.

Mbo nono bona ewe wafwisisie masalao nisio khukhola khuli olele khakono ne sisindu siabao.

We have to get you a basket if there is something.

Sindu sesitambanga mungo mwo mundu tawe.

Someone's home cannot completely lack something.

Mungo mwe babandu bosimwosi sindu sesitambanga ta, yakhaba nekhali khanywinywi osuta.

Peoples homes cannot completely lack something, you take even if it is a chick.

Ne omundu paka okhuelekesia abakhoo mucha naye.

There must be someone who will accompany you.

Nowola khulila masalao nono newama ewenywe ewe niwe orangiranga nesikono esesio, ne sindu siaba mukhwaa aba silimo nesiatambamo bamanya bali aba otambile lakini okhaka wesiwabakho nasio nawola anje wamasalao aao wolile anje okhacha munju nimwo kumulambo kulimo ta, yakhaba nebarusiemo okhachamo ta.

When mourning your father in-law, when coming from your home you have to be on the front carrying something and if not, they will understand you didn't get anything though you should try to get something and take it to your father in-law's place, don't go to the house where the body is even when the body has been removed.

Eneno woosi niyo masalao afwilile eneno wabumalamuo balio bakhatambao basengeo bomusecha woo baliyo balakhwakanila balome bali kalaa kalaa yakhaba nebalila olilakho tu.

At your husband's place you will be welcomed by your in-law's and if they are not around his aunties will welcome you. They will cry and console you.

Okhalola eyeyo nio kumulambo kuli ta ewe olila neboosi balila nebakhwakanila bindu nibio osutile ebwo, siosi siosi, okhaloma oli sibe sinanu wakhatamba ekhafu wakhatamba engokho lakini sindu sibakhoo nga nisio osutakho.

But don't look at where the body is, you will both be crying as they welcome and help you with the things you would have carried, you cannot manage to get a cow or a chicken but you must carry something.

Sesitambanga khusibala khuno bali kuru kuru ta bakhwakanila bakhuyila niyo bamanyile abo aba bakhulu nibo bandu sebachunukha chunukha busa oli babana ta bakhuyila niyo wenyakhana olilie, wikhale ebweneyo.

You can't completely lack something in this world, them being mature they will take you to a place you can mourn comfortably, they don't just put you in a place you won't be okay with, you will stay there.

Nono bano sebali bakeni nibo wichile nabo?

Now these are the visitors you came with.

Aba samwamalile nono khulila nemwanja nono khulosia khukhole khurie khukhole khurie ese bona bandu khabama engo bakhulondakho namwanja khukhola sisienyekhane sikholekhe mbo bandu khabama engo becha khukhulondakho.

You start discussing what to do now that your people have started coming over and there is some calm, you should start doing the necessary because your people will be coming over.

Nono nabechile babenabo nabechile, nebali bapapa boo nebalimo.

When your paternal uncles come over.

Babebusi boo babamo.

When your parents are among them.

Nebekhala nende basakwa ofwile yuno aba omanyile nabakhekhala ta bosi bamanyile sikila bakhulu nibo, bosi sabanyala bachayo ta manyile ndi sabachayo ta.

You will be aware if they had met the deceased and if not, they are mature enough not to go there.

Nebachayo aba bamanyile aba bekhalakho alala bapakho embakha, bakeniana, baliakho sindu silala, bakhora bariena, bamanyame khukhwama khale wakana.

If they go there it means they met earlier, visited one another had a meal and a conversation.

Nebakhakanana bosi basanyala beikicha busa bosi babene bachamo babona okonile oyo ta.

They will not confidently view the body if they have never met before.

Bekhala aao nono aba kamasika sekachaka barekeresiakho busa neli sisikhasio nesili khucha khusikha sing’ani sebachayo ta nendolelela sebanyala bachayo ta sikila bosi sebekhala bapakho embakha esuku ekindi ta, sebakholakho siosi ta, sebakenianakho ta sebacha sia ng’ani ta.

They don't attend the funeral, they will just listen to the speeches, they will not go near the grave, if they never had a discussion, they don't go near the grave.

Baasi nono ewe okhafwayo tawe sikila bano bechile khukhulilisia ewewe oba busa aao basi bano nga bamala khukhwikhala musikhasio sino.

You should not worry because they came to grieve with you, you stay until your people follow up the function to the end.

Somanya oli enyekhana nebarekukha balikhukhubona wakana lubeka.

You know if they leave they will see you privately.

Sindu siabao nga nisio banyala banywakho namwe baliakho nebalia.

They should have some food or drink if it will be available.

Batubane mubano sikila bano bakhukendelele ewewe khubela kamasika kakwileo kano.

On mixing with others, it is because they came to grieve with you.

Nono balikhuba ba sa khukhulola ewewe, wesi okhaba mukhuyobana webilila oli bandu bandondilekho khwama engo tawe soyobanabana busa ta oba busa meso oli bawandayase bechile bapapa nende basenge nebali bakhocha bechile khumbona baasi nono oba busa meso oli bandu bamile engo bandondilekho ingawaje bechile kamasika sebatubana nabano ta.

Since they came because of you, don't get confused and forget about them, stay alert, you should be alert since your uncles, aunties and siblings would have come to grieve with you, they will not mix with others even if they came to the funeral.

Bano bekhale eno bamalile nono benya balikho bawao sindu siabao nebaliakho nesitamba nebamanya bali siatambile sebakhwikicha wesi wakana wamenya soli na sindu ta.

And when it ends they have to leave, they will understand if they don't have a meal.

Lakini nisio khwokesiakho enyanga yaluno mbo okhabechanga omundu ndiyo masalao mwasimana okhachunukhanga nocha niye masalao ali aoo ta okhachingao nafwile ta okhaba omundu olinga omundu nga.

Something I want to tell you today, be careful when you go to your father in-law's place, however the close relationship you have, don't go there when he is dead.

Olinga omundu wa, mulubukusu khubolanga khuli embelekeu soramo nende siungwa ta.

Don't be a disrespectful person, in Bukusu we call it being very disrespectful

Okhapa omundu oli nende embelekeu saaaaana ta cha niyo masalao bapilanga embakha ta, khinda wabona oyo nono kafwile oyo kachileo esuku yo kanyola masalawe nali khumulambo.

When you don't accord enough respect to your in-law, you see how she went and found her father in-law's body just after his death.

Nono ndabiyanga oyoyo newewe oli meso enyanga ekindi okhakhola orio wachao wesi ta omanye omundu nafwile omanya busa oli kafwile masalao niye oli yee khukhakhola khurio khwonaka sibukusu ta.

I am blaming her and for you who is alert, don't make such a mistake, if a person has died and you say it's your father in-law, it means you have gone against the Bukusu traditions.

Ndiyo lelo khurerana tu, oyo khane kabele Kholo sina, lelo khurerananga nono khwekesiakho yakhaba wesi newarera okhali owefwe ta, okhali omubukusu ta nakechile mungo omwokesianga oli efwefwe khwamenya khuri khwamenya khuri buli khechi khabechanga nende endemu yayo.

Nowadays, we intermarry so we should inform each other, you show him/her how it is done at your place, every river has its own snake.

Mungo mwatamba sikeleko ta nobona khutubana khwenya khutubana sibukusu nono mbolelakho basilikho bali enyuma wase bakhulu bamanyile mbolela bali enyuma wase mbo mungo mwabene nochilemo nomusakhulu woo nende omusecha woo oyoyo ata khendome nandi omusecha woo sikila enywe mukhakofula tawe enywe musili busa babana nandi omusecha woo oyoyo mukachulanga, mkachula mkachula mkachula akhwokesienge bindu bie mumju mwenywe.

If a home lacks guidance, we will end up messing with our traditions, now I want to tell those who are younger that me that when you get married in a certain home, let me say you with your husband, maybe you will get old together because you are still young, you will have a talk with your husband to take you through their traditions.

Nono khane okhola orio khane warera omundu okhali ekholo yoo ta.

Let us say by chance you did not marry from your clan.

Okhekhole oriena ta nono nokesiakho balikho enyuma wase bano mbo norerire omukhaye namwe omukhana yesiyesi namwe omusale oli efwe khukholanga khukholanga khuli.

When you marry your wife, you inform her what you normally do.

Nono mbele busa elubeka lwe kamisika busa aoo tu masalao nafwile mungo.

I am still on the father in-law death issue.

Nenya khwikichamo nono mfano nga bulayi bwene nga mukhomwana wase kakholile esuku eyeyo bakholanga bariena.

I want to elaborate what is supposed to be done, for instance how my daughter in-law behaved that day.

Ewewe khekhwibilakho busa likhuwa lilala liong’ene okhachunukhakho enyanga ekindi ta.

I want to tell you one secret, don't behave carelessly someday.

Balilile mwatayi bali papa kafwile bali eeh.

There will be cries in your father in-law's house when he dies.

Omusakhulu katibile ata abelemo eeh khupamo busa lwang’a munju mwoo omwomwo bandu beche bandu balecha bali simbi, masalao kafwile? Eeh mwasimana? Eeh omukholelanga buli sindu? Eeh luno kafwile okhachamo ta.

Scream from your house and people will come, people will come to find out what the issue is and make some inquiries on the relationship you had with your dead in-law and warn you not go there.

Omundu nafwile amanyanga ali nali sichula kweli?

Does a person know if they are naked when they die?

Omundu kafwa amanya ali ndisuchula namwe ndi nechingubo kweli?

Does a person know whether they are naked or with clothes when they die?

Samanyanga ta, anyala khuba kafwile ali aoo kakonile sichula asi bulayi bwene.

They never know, he/she could die naked peacefully.

Newe wepamo onyola maayi bwoo masalao we sikhasi maayi woo musecha woo alikhamung'ona amung’ona amung’ona nekhane wesi omubona okhola orie.

When you go it you might find your mother in-law, she will be cleaning him up.

Yaba ewe chisoni sechikhutila, khuche busa khubung'ali, yaba ewe chisoni sachikhutila?

To be honest, won't you be ashamed if you were the one?

Mukhomwana wase, sekali bali nganisie nandi bali okhaba nendee.

My daughter in-law, I am not saying that you should not.

Lakini bindu bilala biliyo nibioo wibasia oli eeh nakhola ndi ngali abaa.

There are some things you will think through and decide on what to do.

Bilio bilala nibio wibonelakho oli nacha mwatayi omu papa wase wo musecha wase kafwile.

Ask yourself, if you go in uninvited when your father in-law has just died.

Nepamo sa kweli?

Do they just storm in?

Eeeh? Nepamo sa kweli?

Do I just storm in?

Ese mbara ndi omundu nabeela abechanga kimiaka kiolile kumi na nane khucha ebweni, khinda khane wecha mapema.

I believe when someone gets married, they should be 18 years and above. Let us assume you got married early.

Wechakho, wechakho nosilikho nga mwana nono noli mungo orebakho balikhomo bakhulu.

When you got married while still young, you ask for guidance from the elders.

Ewe nochile mungo mwabene orebakho balikhomo bakhulu oli ese nechile mungo muno.

When you get married to a certain home, you ask for guidance from the elders.

Busime burio bubechangao ewe nomusakhulu woo lakini oreba bakhulu oli luno nono ese nechile muno.

You and your husband will be in love so you should ask the elders on how things are done there.

Okholakho busale nende bandu be mungo omwo bakhulukhokho bakhulukho bakhulu.

You make friends with mature people in that home.

Maayi woo sali omubi ta, bali naye kakhubonela bubi ali ewe wechile mungo omwo khumwana wewe ta.

Your mother in-law is not a bad person, who can be jealous for you getting married to her son.

Omurebekhakho, bilio nibio akhukisa bilio nibio akhubolela busa bung’ali sakhukisa buli sindu ta nga ndolelela ta ndi abia yesi omubi.

Ask her things of which she will tell you the truth on some and hide some from you, she can't hide everything as I see it, not unless she is really bad.

Nono ewewe kabali bona esuku eyo wabone kumulambo kwa masalao nafwile khukhole khurie.

Like the other day, you saw the body of your dead father in-law, what should we do with you?

Khwakhubelele bakhulu balakhubolelakho likhuwa lilindi lakini lukhola luno khwakhubelele esuku ekindi nono mbolela bali balamu bakhakholakho bario ta.

They forgave you, the elders with tell you something else but for us today we have forgiven you, I am telling those who are still alive and have not done something like that.

Khuli nende kamayuba malala kamalayi sana kabuyeti, kakhuyetana.

There is some kind of cheerfulness which is good.

Kamayuba kakandi kaliyo kakila mwanja khupara muli khane omwana yuno kecha muno khane sali omulayi ta lakini mweeesi balayi tu, lakini nono ndi busa mumasika busa aoo nechile nola akhusikha nalekhela akhusikha aoo khwekesie ndi bandu nebakhulondilekho, abwenao mbara malile, kamasika nekakhawa nono bandu basikhile bachile.

Some cheerfulness can make people begin thinking that you are not a good person, still in the issue of death, I had stopped on the burial issue, I finished teaching you when people follow after the funeral and people have left.

Omusakhulu woo ali busa emasika ewabwe, wakana papawoo kakhuwakho abundu wombakhao soli mungo mubwene ta olikho sibacho omusakhulu woo wakana ali emasika eyo kesayo.

Your husband, when he goes to your home, maybe you were given a place by your father in-law to build your own house, you are a little bit far and maybe your husband spends the night at the funeral.

Nomanye khukhwesa khwalelo lelo mwarereo bandu bali barekesia bali chiredio namwe barekesia bindu biyokesianga bino.

During the night vigil nowadays people listen to things like radios or other things that make noise.

Ndiyo bandu banyala khuba khabarekeresiana na babandi bali eyeyo khabakhina khabaesa newe ochunukha oli musakhulu sekhucha munju?

Yes, people might be telling stories or others dancing then you just appear asking your husband to go home.

Mala aba kekhasie babasie bechile khumulilisia kamasika ka papa woo masalo oyoyo newe ocha omurikhirisia oli ewe khane oli ano.

He would have invited his friends who have come to grieve death of your father in-law with him, then you scare him to go home.

Nali omwana omanya oli wabeela khumwana, nowabeela khumukhulu omanya busa oli khakhola ebi biang'ali.

You will know if you are married to a young or mature person, if it is a mature person you will know he will be doing the right thing.

Okhachichanga lundi bandu bamalanga khusikha ekoloba bekhalakho, bekhalakho bikhasio fulani fulani, bekhalangakho bikhasio bilikho bikabukhana.

People hold different meetings in the evening after burial.

Aundi balalakho bararawe bano sikila omwana yuno wakana akholanga ekasi etayi, kechilekho namwe mwamenya etayi kekhalakho nebararawe bano bamwekesiakho likhuwa lilala namwe kabili.

The child will have a discussion with his uncles who will teach him one or two words if he works far from home.

Newe ocha oli khwama enyanga eyeyo namwe khwama esuku eyo wabele eneno yaani olakholanga sina, ndiyo khumanyile khusikha aba kamasika kawele.

That "since that day we had the burial, what are you doing?" I know the funeral will be over.

Babandu balala baliyo ata sayi bisiliyo busa sebili bali bikhawao ta.

There are some people, even now the practice is still going on.

Kamasika kawechanga bandu bacha khukhola bibindu bibindi bibienyekhana khuendelesia namwe khuchililisia nende limenya liefwe.

Funerals end and people proceed with other things to continue living.

Nonyola lundi sikhasio khane khasiendelea, nono nemele khumukhomwana wase.

I am still talking about my daughter in-law, you may find the funeral meeting still in progress.

Sana sana ndabolelanga bamukhomwana babase bano.

Mostly I am saying this to my daughter in-laws.

Nga nabone enyanga eyo nga bakholile.

The way I saw how they did the other day.

Okhachunukha busa wacha wakhwesa omusakhulu woo musikhasio sie balebe mala khane ali emasika ta.

You should not just storm your husband out of a relatives funeral gathering.

Yaani sebalakhurakho kumusango ta lakini chisoni chitila basasi, chitila babebusi bamwibula bano, chilabatila bali khane yuno karera omwana nasili, bano barera nebasili.

So they will not fine you but your parents will be embarrassed, they will say you got married while still young.

Basakhulu bamwokesia bali bona khwasikha rarao khukhwama luno wakana bamwekesiakho sindu, rarao kabechanga ari, kabechanga ari. Bamwekesiakho kimiandu nikio kekekhanga enje, bamwokesiakho newe ocha ochunukha oli nabeela khumusecha sina okhasima yuno ta.

The elders will seat him down to discuss how they have buried his father, from today maybe they are showing him something or how his father was and showing him some of the properties and you stand up to take him out of the meeting, wondering "what kind of husband did I marry who does not love me."

Wakana bekhale nebararwe sikila bona enywe mwamenya enje mwechile, newe basikhile rarao.

He may be seated with his paternal uncles after burial since you may be living outside.

Basikhile luno barere mung’ani akolobaa munyanga chibili che musilo otimaka ocha okhwesa omusecha woo musikhasio sie basasi bewe.

They would have buried him that day, at 8pm in the evening you will run to pull your husband from the funeral meeting.

Balakhulekhula oche naye lakini chisoni chitilanga babebusi bali nono omwana yuno khukhamunyolekho sina.

They will let you go with him but it's the parents who will be embarrassed and they will pity your husband.

Khwenya khwumwekesie sindu aulilekhomo nakhane omukhana wefwe khane kabone ali khumulasia.

We wanted to teach him somethings but our daughter in-law does not see any value in that.

Nono bakhana base nabone chisoni nyanga eyeyo, mucha kalaa kalaa mwanyolamo likhuwa.

So, my daughters in-law, it was shameful the other day, don't rush in order to understand things.

Nemuli mukholo mwabene, murekeresianga ekholo eyeyo sikila ewe wasimamo nio wachamo.

When you are in someone's home, listen to that clan because it is love that made you get married there.

Amasika busa ao tu sekhendurakhoo ta, bona okhwesile omusakhulu woo, namwe bona ewe okhwesa rarao boosi bamukhwesilenge.

Still on the funeral issue, I am not getting over it, both you and his uncles would be pulling him.

Ewe okhwesa bano boosi bamukhwesa, ekhumalilikha wakana wacha naye namwe bano basikala naye.

The uncles will also be pulling him back and lastly one of you will win.

Enyanga ekhole ye khataru nali wesisecha kafwile nyanga eyo, bona muchuli khucha khwesinga khucha muluchi, khucha khwesinga khucha busa bandu bakali tu, khucha busa lunyilili luleyi band bakali bekholo khucha khwesinga khucha khusinga chingubo chewe echecho nakhwicha khwolanga anje lundi khucha asilindwa aoo khubekanilao.

On the third day if it was a man we will go to the river to bathe, we will go a group of people from the clan to bathe, we wash his clothes then come back to the grave and shave one another.

Enywe lelo mucha mubindu biliyo balanga bali, barakho esitima balanga bali binyosi.

Nowadays you go to things which uses electricity called Kinyozi (barbershop).

Nokhabone esuku niyo bakhabekele omusecha woo anje asilindwa muchuli bona wamukhayilengekho bamubekela anje sikila nofwisisie omundu omukhulu nga omusasi sibechanga sibela.

In those days, you will see your husband getting shaved outside, yesterday you wanted him to spend more time with you and now he is being shaved outside, when a parent who is mature dies. It is normally sad.

Sekali bali aba wekhale okhochekhachekha, enywe mulanganga muli si? (rao likhuwa elielo nakhubolele rao) seli bali aba omundu khakhola sinanu bali aba kasangalile ta aba katibisie mala sibechanga sibela nono bamukholela busa kimila yoosi nga bienyekhana nebusa werakho oli bamubekele asilindwa ololele olole omusecha woo emoni embi.

It will not be something funny to enjoy, put your own word you think if it was a funny thing, he will have lost and it is very sad, so they do all the traditions as needed, if you feel bad that he is shaved at the grave.

Khubolele ndi mbakhoo khakhechi khatambanga endemu ta abele kholo sina ali nekakabwe, nochile mukholo mwabene.

I know there is no river that lacks a snake, every clan has its own traditions.

Nisio nyala nelamo rekeresianga kalimo, nekakhukhayile nyoa okhukhe sikila enyanga chisoni chikhaambe babebusi nga ese chambambile esuku eyo nebusie likoloba.

If you get married in someone's home, learn how they do things because if you don't. Get out because one day your parents will be embarrassed, I was embarrassed the other day before yesterday

Chambambile, khwikhwicha nokhwesa khwesa omusecha mumasika kararawe kwafwisisie oli sowalile ta.

Don't come and pull your husband when your father in-law is dead, claiming he has not eaten, I was embarrassed.

Ndi nakhalile ta amanya ali sakalile ta, niye atibisie lekhana omundu alile sifwabakani kafwisisie.

Let a person grieve their own way they want. If they haven't eaten they will definitely be aware.

Ewe omwene mbo dadi mbo khane nanu khe nanu, tawe akano khakaweo mukhakachule.

You will be referring to him as "daddy or whatever" let this end and you will talk.

Neyesi omusoleli wase oyo khemubolela niyo ali aoo, akhebilila katibia engo ta.

I am also telling my boy not to allow himself to be intimidated.

Kache achume nail mwirobi namwe nali ekisumo khakhula.

Let him go and work whether in Nairobi or Kisumu, he is maturing.

Akhatibia engo ta.

He should not forget about home.

Nono nisio ekhubolelakho busa mukhana wase namwe yaya mulinyuma ndi busa khumasika masalao bona nga kafwile ariaro muchuli khakhubekana.

Now I want to tell you something to those who are still young and my daughters in-law, still on the funeral of your father in-law, tomorrow there will be shaving.

Orebakho oli khubekana khuno khuli nende khukhola si?

You should ask the meaning behind shaving each other.

Omundu satamba nisio akhubolela ta, alakhubolela ali khubekana khuno khuli nende sifuno fulani nekhwakhabekana khwamala efwe khwila khumilimo, mwesi mwila khumilimo.

No one will hesitate to tell you the meaning behind it and when we are done shaving one anther we continue with our lives, you also go back to your jobs.

Khurechangao chinyanga khuli chinyanga nechakhawa fulani, khwarao khuli bele chinyanga kamakhumi kane nechiwele lundi khukalukhanga enyuma khukhola lundi kimilukha khumalao niaba khwaulilisiane nebusa mwerakho khutiaba busa nekhutibia khurio bali khutibia mumaduka.

We set aside forty days, when those forty days end we come back and finish doing other traditions because we will have an agreement if we don't. We should not forget the importance of keeping the traditions and stay away.

Khukhatibiakho enonokho yefwe khwama khale, mukhatibiakho ta aba mwakhukosele namwe mwakosele bakhulu bali ebweni.

We should not lose our traditions from back in the days, that will be lack of respect to our elders.

Nokhola orio oli mung’ani yesi asulunya, nasulunya wesi khusibala khuno nolikho nosikenda wesi aba sobona wesi nio obirira bubi bwon’ene bubi bwong’ene wekhupekho oli nakosela nanu khane aba oyo kasulunya.

If you do that, even the dead in the grave will be sad, when you make him sad, you never have peace in this world.

Efwe kimisango khwatibiakho, aba bifuno biefwe biesibukusu aba efwe khakhutiba omundu nafwile khumukholele bibienyekhana ache ache kabisa.

We should not lose our traditions as Bukusu's, when a person dies we should carry out all the traditions, he should just go.

Nachile khwakhakalukha khwanja khurebana aba khumanya khuli khakhurebana musifuno fulani mubifuno bikabukhana nebusa werakho oli ese narerire ekholo wakana ekhali eyase ta mala khurie ewe nanwe ndie omukhaye wase ndobe khukholela ekholo nga yenyile ta aba nise khotibile.

Now we can come back and do some discussion, we would know the level of discussion, if we say we base on whether I married from my clan or not, it is me who will be losing if I decide not to participate because my wife is not from my clan.

Khabonakho bali omundu arerire omundu omukhulila ta buli lwoosi omundu areranga omutitkho khumiaka akhaba esuku ndala.

I have never seen someone who marries someone older that him, every time they marry someone younger than them.

Norerire khukhulila khumanyile bioosi bandu bamanyile neyesi akhukhulila aba kalikhao niko amanyilekho. Akhusomiakho, akhubolelakho, akhokesiakho.

People know that and it means she knows much more than you and she will teach you.

Nebusa werakho bali oche mungo mwabene, nabone esuku eyo chisoni khumulambo bali oche munju mwabene kumulambo kwakonile aoo wesi wikhupamo bali bandu babechangamo bali bali muyesu. Mbakhoo khusibala kuno okhakendanga khurusiakho wele tawe.

I saw the other day how shameful it was to go in someone's house when the dead body is lying there, people say they are in Christ, there is no one in this world who does not believe in God.

Sifuno busa mbo wele woo oyoyo nakhwekesia ewe omanyile wele khwola waena nawimanyile oriena, omwene nga noli busa oriorio wemanyile khwola waena.

How well do you know your God? How do you know yourself?

Wemanyile nga wasalwa, nga ne bakhwibula, nanu bakhebula bano, nga webulwa wecha orie. Mbakhoo omundu okhali khuwele ta.

Do you know how you were born? There is no one who doesn't know God.

Nono aundu amasika busa aoo ong'ene niye ndiwo mala nabone enyanga eyo bubi.

I am still talking about the funeral, I was so annoyed the other day.

Nabone bubi nola ao nono nabone ndi mwambunile nandi khembekesiekho ndi busa khumukhomwana nekamasika.

I felt bad and since you have come early I have decided to share with you, I am talking about the daughter in-law and the funeral.

Nemusima bakhana base bona mwatekha akhaba base boosi mbekesianga okhebilila munju mwa masalao nafwile wepamo ta.

Please, my daughters in-law, you are married, I also have mine that I teach, never enter your dead father in-law's house.

Nali mulamu khola busa bindu bioosi muyete muyete mutekhele alie nakhalia mumwoo ta lakini nafwile okhepangamo busa sifwabakani ta sembola ndi omundu atambile omuyeta tawe nono ocha khuyeta kumulambo kucha khukhuyeta sinanu okhekhupanga munju niyo kumulambo kuli ta.

Cook and do other things but when he dies never go in without permission, I am not saying you should not help but what will you be helping the corpse with? Don't go in in without permission.

Nono khwakhola abundu niyo bandu babekanilinga aoo bakhabekana ewe wanyisisie tu nebano khababekana.

We had reached a point where people shave each other, you will be putting on unhappy face as they shave each other.

Welesia omusecha woo oyoyo bise akholele ekholo namalile okhamurebe khale nebusa khukhwama luno okhachunukhanga busa nocha khumusecha woo oli binanu bino, bulalu sina buno?!

Give your husband time to relate with the clan and ask him when he is done, from today on don't be attacking your husband with complaints.

Chisoni chitilanga babebusi sachitilakho enywenywe ta chitila babebusi mbo ng’ali sakhwekesia babana befwe ta.

It is the parents who get embarrassed that they didn't teach you well.

Khabamubeke bamale enywe musamule bandu boosi bache bakhole bibienyakhana nibio khwenyanga buli nyanga nekhumenyekho.

Let them finish shaving him and people to resume their normal routines, what we do daily.

Esuku ye lung'anyo nekolile kamakhumi kane necholile khukalukhanga enyuma khureba, bona papa kafwa khukhole khurie?

After fourteen days we go back for a discussion, what should we do now that our father died?

Nono mukhana wase omusasi nakhubolela ali khuche engo mureba eyeyo khubakhongo benywe muli khakhwenya khuchakho engo bona chinyanga kamakhumi kane kawele khakhuche engo khumanye sina sichililila.

So, my daughter in-law, if a parent tells you to go home, you should ask your bosses for permission after fourteen days to go home and find out what is going on.

Nono nemwakhola engo murebane papa bona kafwile khukhole khurie?

You ask yourselves when you reach home "Now father in-law died, what should we do?"

Khanekesia omukhana wase oyoyo sikila ali nechisoni, oreba omusakhulu woo oli esuku eyo, enyanga eyo waba ori waba ori nono bukula bise bino yeyimelelakho orebe omusakhulu woo oli khukhole khurie?

You ask your husband how he was the other day, take the responsibility and ask your husband what should be done.

Nemwakhola engo muli nekamakhuwa kabili, mumanyie sindu balanganga bali lung’anyo?

When you get home, you have two things, do you know some funeral traditions.

Nemwenya mwakhenya khumala silindwa nende kumuyekhe namwe mwakhenya mukhole muriena nono abwenao aba enafasi yakhola sasa.

If you want to smear the grave with sand or something else.

Aba nono yolile murebane papa nekafwa khukholekho si, bali simbi balebe bano khubakholekho khuriena?

That is your time now, you should ask yourselves what to for your father's memorial.

Nono abwenao mulanga muli nono mwakhenya murebane papa yuno bona kakona, nekalekhakho sinanu sinyala siakila khwalomana.

At that moment you can find out what your father left behind that can cause a fight.

Enyanga ye lufu mwaba mwanyisisie mumoni semwebana ta nono mulung’anyo mwibililakho kamasika kawelekho kidogo khukhole khuriena?

During the funeral, you were unhappy you didn't talk about it, now that its a memorial grief has calmed down.

Papa yuno bona kafwa khwasikha, katiba khukhola khurie?

We lost and buried, what should we do?

Nono omusoleli wase nende omukhana wase murebana, kafwa khukhole khurie nebabandi boosi baliyo sikila ekholo seli yo mundu mulala bali enju ndala ta.

You discuss that with your husband and others who will be listening because the clan is not for one person.

Khukhole khurie?

What should we do?

Khumalekho silindwa sino, khurekho kumuyekhe?

To smear this grave, we should use sand on it.

Khurekho kamasisie?

Should we put cow dung?

Khurekho sinanu? khuberekhokho,, aya nekimiandu kiewe wakana kalekhakho.

Maybe he left some wealth behind.

Nisio mwebililakho mulufu wakana samwabola bioosi tawe, mwalomananga khukhole khurie?

Any issues you had in the funeral to be discussed.

Baasi mukabana busa bindu kalaa nga bandu bakhulu, olabona murerana aba mwesi mwakhulile aba semusili bana batiti ta mukabane bindu kalaa khulondekhana mwabene nga mumanyane.

Just share things peacefully now that you have matured, you are no longer kids, share things peacefully depending on how you understand each other.

Noli omusoleli wase wekesia omukhana wase noli omukhana wase wokesia omusolelei wase oli nono khukhole khurie, yaani ndabolanga nandi sikila khabonakho bali bandu babeyisiane bali babana nebakhulu ta.

If you are my son and my daughter in-law, you should teach each other how to go by, I have never seen young and old people get married.

Bandu babesiananga babolanile khurerana nono amasika busa aoo nono khuli mulung’anyo nono mwanjile mucha kamasika mwebilile khukhole khurie?

People marry when they are mature for marriage, during the memorial you should not forget to make discussions.

Papa wakana kabukulakho sindu siabene abundu nono abwene abele nolile abwenao, nono alung'anyo, anyo ao namwolile aba muchekhakho enyanga eyo mwaba mwanyisisie mumoni kimiandu bona khamukabana kalaa kalaa.

Maybe your father owes someone, during the memorial, you should at least have happy faces, share the wealth peacefully.

Nalimo omukhulu khomo akhebilinga benyuma tawe, omukhulu akhebilila bali asi wewe ta.

If there is someone older, they should not forget the young ones.

Basi nemumalile nenono mwakhasaamula mwakhacha mwalomana eyeyo mwasikha masalawenywe mungila endayi.

You can go and fight out there when you have finished, provided you gave your father in-law a befitting send off.

Kuka namwe kukhu mumbunile nakhenya khumwokesiakho lienelio lakini nono nebukhali namalile abwenao enyanga ekindi nemukhabe nelikhuwa nemumbuna mwandeba kamakhuwa sakawechanga ta bali chilomo melu nakamile abwenao ese kamasina kange bananga bali George wa Wasike omuchemwile eeeh mayi omumeme.

You have heard me, I wanted to tell you that and I am ending there, another day when you have a word, you can ask me, stories don't end, they say stories are like saliva, my name is George, son of Wasike from the Bachemwile clan, I am ending here, eeh, mother from the Bameme clan.

Asanti kuka kukhu lundi mumbonekho koo. Asanti.

Thank you very much, my brothers and sisters, we will meet again. Thank you.